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The Art of Not-Knowing: What Zen and Psychology Have in Common
Discover the common ground between an ancient spiritual practice of mind training and modern psychotherapy, and how they share similar tools for…
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Rob Lefort
Psychopath, Sociopath, or Antisocial? Science vs True Crime Fiction
Debunking common misconceptions about psychopathy, sociopathy, and ASPD; three terms the media uses interchangeably but shouldn't. Learn the real…
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Why We Keep Being Attracted to the Wrong Partner
Discover why you're unconsciously drawn to partners who hurt you in familiar ways and learn the psychology behind breaking free from toxic relationship…
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The Discipline Paradox: Why Being Hard on Yourself Backfires
Self-criticism and self-bullying kill productivity. Learn a science-backed approach to sustainable discipline through self-attunement and authentic…
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A Self-Regulation Guide: How to Befriend Chronic Anxiety Instead of Fighting It
Neurotic behaviors aren't character flaws—they're your psyche's attempts at self-regulation and your compass around unconscious pain. Learn to decode…
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The Beautiful Mess of Starting Over: A Guide to Turning Your Life Around
Starting over is never pretty—it's messy, uncertain, and often humiliating. But that chaos isn't a bug, it's a feature. Here's a guide to embracing…
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The Narcissism Reality Check: Separating Psychological Facts from Media Fiction
A psychologist separates clinical facts from social media fiction, debunking misleading myths about narcissism to help you recognize the real signs.
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Making Friends with Your Inner Villain: Why Your Dark Side Might Be Your Greatest Asset
The work of integrating your "darker" personality traits—rather than repressing them—is essential for psychological strength, authentic relationships…
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Are You Feeling Stuck? It’s Not A Crisis — It’s A Clue.
Feeling stuck isn’t failure — it’s your mind’s way of telling you it’s time to grow. Learn how to decode this signal and move forward with clarity…
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Attachment Styles: How Our Early Bonds Shape Adult Relationships
Our earliest relationships create the neural scaffolding upon which all future connections are built, shaping how we seek comfort, safety, and…
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Understanding Personality Tests
Psychometric personality testing principles, limitations, and usefulness.
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Your True Self is Lost in Translation
What we call the "true self" is fluid, shaped by imprecise language that defines yet limits us, leaving identity as an evolving, unfinished narrative.
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