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Borderline Personality and Relationships: When Love Isn't Enough
A therapist's honest, practical guide to navigating relationships with someone who has BPD—without the usual platitudes or oversimplifications.
Oct 9
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Rob Lefort
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The Self Sabotage Playbook: How We Torpedo Our Own Lives
Discover why you unconsciously sabotage your relationships and success, how childhood patterns drive self-destruction, and what actually works to break…
Oct 2
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Rob Lefort
33
Why Emotional Maturity is the Ultimate Relationship Dealbreaker
A look at the research-backed signs of emotional maturity that predict relationship success—and why settling for less keeps you stuck in toxic patterns.
Sep 20
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Rob Lefort
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Breaking Free From a Narcissist's Playbook and Reclaiming Your Sanity
Escape narcissistic manipulation with proven strategies. Master gray-rocking, boundaries, and detachment techniques to reclaim your sanity and freedom.
Sep 16
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Rob Lefort
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The map vs the territory: why your life plan should be written in pencil
Discover why a flexible life plan beats both rigid goal-setting and aimless wandering and learn to navigate uncertainty while staying true to your…
Sep 13
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Rob Lefort
12
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Lost in translation: How language shapes our relationships and our psychology
Discover how a linguist and a philosopher's insights about language can transform relationships, why we misread each other and how to communicate more…
Aug 28
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Rob Lefort
24
Emotional Boundaries 101: How to Stop Being an Emotional Sponge
Tired of attracting emotionally intense people? Learn why you became an emotional sponge and discover practical strategies to set boundaries and reclaim…
Aug 26
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Rob Lefort
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From Safe Spaces to Toxic Spaces: Why Avoiding Discomfort Backfires
Why young adults can't handle criticism or rejection—and how well-meaning parents and schools accidentally created a fragile generation and a mental…
Aug 15
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Rob Lefort
10
The Negotiation Skills That Can Save Your Relationship
Discover why strategic empathy beats endless compromise, what's actually negotiable in relationships, and what should never be up for discussion.
Aug 12
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Rob Lefort
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The Art of Not-Knowing: What Zen and Psychology Have in Common
Discover the common ground between an ancient spiritual practice of mind training and modern psychotherapy, and how they share similar tools for…
Aug 2
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Rob Lefort
15
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Psychopath, Sociopath, or Antisocial? Science vs True Crime Fiction
Debunking common misconceptions about psychopathy, sociopathy, and ASPD; three terms the media uses interchangeably but shouldn't. Learn the real…
Jul 24
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Rob Lefort
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Why We Keep Being Attracted to the Wrong Partner
Discover why you're unconsciously drawn to partners who hurt you in familiar ways and learn the psychology behind breaking free from toxic relationship…
Jul 19
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Rob Lefort
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