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Breaking Free From a Narcissist's Playbook and Reclaiming Your Sanity
Escape narcissistic manipulation with proven strategies. Master gray-rocking, boundaries, and detachment techniques to reclaim your sanity and freedom.
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Rob Lefort
The map vs the territory: why your life plan should be written in pencil
Discover why a flexible life plan beats both rigid goal-setting and aimless wandering and learn to navigate uncertainty while staying true to your…
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Lost in translation: How language shapes our relationships and our psychology
Discover how a linguist and a philosopher's insights about language can transform relationships, why we misread each other and how to communicate more…
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Rob Lefort
Emotional Boundaries 101: How to Stop Being an Emotional Sponge
Tired of attracting emotionally intense people? Learn why you became an emotional sponge and discover practical strategies to set boundaries and reclaim…
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From Safe Spaces to Toxic Spaces: Why Avoiding Discomfort Backfires
Why young adults can't handle criticism or rejection—and how well-meaning parents and schools accidentally created a fragile generation and a mental…
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Rob Lefort
The Negotiation Skills That Can Save Your Relationship
Discover why strategic empathy beats endless compromise, what's actually negotiable in relationships, and what should never be up for discussion.
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The Art of Not-Knowing: What Zen and Psychology Have in Common
Discover the common ground between an ancient spiritual practice of mind training and modern psychotherapy, and how they share similar tools for…
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Psychopath, Sociopath, or Antisocial? Science vs True Crime Fiction
Debunking common misconceptions about psychopathy, sociopathy, and ASPD; three terms the media uses interchangeably but shouldn't. Learn the real…
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Rob Lefort
Why We Keep Being Attracted to the Wrong Partner
Discover why you're unconsciously drawn to partners who hurt you in familiar ways and learn the psychology behind breaking free from toxic relationship…
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Rob Lefort
The Discipline Paradox: Why Being Hard on Yourself Backfires
Self-criticism and self-bullying kill productivity. Learn a science-backed approach to sustainable discipline through self-attunement and authentic…
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Rob Lefort
A Self-Regulation Guide: How to Befriend Chronic Anxiety Instead of Fighting It
Neurotic behaviors aren't character flaws—they're your psyche's attempts at self-regulation and your compass around unconscious pain. Learn to decode…
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Rob Lefort
The Beautiful Mess of Starting Over: A Guide to Turning Your Life Around
Starting over is never pretty—it's messy, uncertain, and often humiliating. But that chaos isn't a bug, it's a feature. Here's a guide to embracing…
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