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The Effort-Avoidance Bias: When Choosing Comfort Makes Your Life Smaller
Why laziness, procrastination, and avoidance are the same psychological mechanism—and how deliberately seeking friction rewires your brain from…
Dec 12
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Why Smart People Stay Stuck (and What Actually Breaks the Pattern)
On blind spots, expertise traps, why self-improvement has structural limits, and why external feedback isn't optional
Dec 10
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The Catch-22 of Anxious Attachment
Without self-worth, growth is impossible, but anxious attachment makes achieving it seem nearly impossible. Here's how to break free
Dec 3
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You're Not Broken—Your Survival Strategy Is
Why capable people suddenly feel like they're disappearing—and what's actually collapsing when you can't recognize yourself anymore.
Nov 20
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Why Your Brain Treats Bad Relationships Like a Slot Machine
The dopamine trap makes you choose people who keep you guessing. Here's the neuroscience behind why chaos feels like chemistry—and how to break the…
Nov 13
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The Reason Why Self-Esteem Dies When You Know Yourself Too Well
Why self-aware people struggle with confidence, how to decode your envy, and why feeling like a fraud means you're more honest than most.
Nov 6
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Borderline Personality and Relationships: When Love Isn't Enough
A therapist's honest, practical guide to navigating relationships with someone who has BPD—without the usual platitudes or oversimplifications.
Oct 9
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The Self Sabotage Playbook: How We Torpedo Our Own Lives
Discover why you unconsciously sabotage your relationships and success, how childhood patterns drive self-destruction, and what actually works to break…
Oct 2
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Why Emotional Maturity is the Ultimate Relationship Dealbreaker
A look at the research-backed signs of emotional maturity that predict relationship success—and why settling for less keeps you stuck in toxic patterns.
Sep 20
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Breaking Free From a Narcissist's Playbook and Reclaiming Your Sanity
Escape narcissistic manipulation with proven strategies. Master gray-rocking, boundaries, and detachment techniques to reclaim your sanity and freedom.
Sep 16
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Rob Lefort
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The map vs the territory: why your life plan should be written in pencil
Discover why a flexible life plan beats both rigid goal-setting and aimless wandering and learn to navigate uncertainty while staying true to your…
Sep 13
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Lost in translation: How language shapes our relationships and our psychology
Discover how a linguist and a philosopher's insights about language can transform relationships, why we misread each other and how to communicate more…
Aug 28
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