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The Paradox of Insecure Attachment
Why understanding your emotional patterns is only the beginning of changing them.
Oct 27
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Rob Lefort
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Dating after a breakup: A Rebound Reality Check
Dating right after a breakup treats grief as something to outrun. A psychologist explains what rebounds cost and what to repair before dating again.
Oct 20
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Rob Lefort
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Why You Should Reconsider What Builds True Resilience
What makes people resilient and what undermines it? How flexible coping, practical support, and loosening the need to always be strong can help us adapt…
Oct 13
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Rob Lefort
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The Rise of Cultural Narcissism
Psychologists are seeing more fragmented selves than ever before. A look at what's actually driving cultural narcissism.
Sep 8
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Rob Lefort
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10 Reasons Why Happiness Is Elusive and What Gets in the Way
Happiness isn't something you can secure. Rather, it's the byproduct of a number of deliberate choices, some of which go against our nature or are…
Sep 1
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Rob Lefort
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Writing Is How the Mind Makes Sense of Itself
Why does writing clarify what talking cannot? Psychology and neuroscience suggest that putting feelings into words doesn't just describe the mind. It…
Aug 25
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Rob Lefort
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How Modern Culture Breeds Fragile Minds and Undermines True Resolve
In a cultural shift, modern society is producing a personality prototype characterized by avoidant coping, low agency, flattened value hierarchies, and…
Aug 11
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Rob Lefort
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How You Respond to Conflict and Its Impact on Your Relationships
Fight, flight, freeze, or comply. Why your reaction to conflict is older than the argument you're having, and what it costs the people closest to you.
Aug 4
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Rob Lefort
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Three Things That Affect the Decision to Leave a Relationship
The reasons people stay are rarely the ones they would name. What the research on commitment, conflict, and grief says about leaving a relationship.
Jul 26
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Rob Lefort
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Where Normal Sexual Behavior Ends and Pathology Begins
Half the population reports a so-called deviant sexual interest. A clinical psychologist on what actually separates a kink from a disorder.
Jul 19
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Rob Lefort
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The Comfort Instinct That Keeps You Underperforming
Your brain was built for survival, not excellence. A clinical psychologist on why underperformance is factory settings—and how to override them.
Jul 12
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Rob Lefort
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Why Your Emotionally Unavailable Partner Pulls Away the Closer You Get
Emotional unavailability isn't yours to fix—but pre-editing is. Why intimacy triggers withdrawal, and the one behavior that's fully in your control.
Jul 5
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Rob Lefort
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