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How You Respond to Conflict and Its Impact on Your Relationships
Fight, flight, freeze, or comply. Why your reaction to conflict is older than the argument you're having, and what it costs the people closest to you.
Aug 4
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Rob Lefort
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Three Things That Affect the Decision to Leave a Relationship
The reasons people stay are rarely the ones they would name. What the research on commitment, conflict, and grief says about leaving a relationship.
Jul 26
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Rob Lefort
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Where Normal Sexual Behavior Ends and Pathology Begins
Half the population reports a so-called deviant sexual interest. A clinical psychologist on what actually separates a kink from a disorder.
Jul 19
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Rob Lefort
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Why Your Emotionally Unavailable Partner Pulls Away the Closer You Get
Emotional unavailability isn't yours to fix—but pre-editing is. Why intimacy triggers withdrawal, and the one behavior that's fully in your control.
Jul 5
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Rob Lefort
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Why Dating Apps Made Romance Too Cheap to Trust
A psychologist's perspective on the behavioral economics of attraction and the impact of a frictionless, app-driven dating market.
Jun 21
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Rob Lefort
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What Therapists Actually Mean When They Say "Boundaries"
A clinical psychologist on why the popular version of "setting boundaries" is the opposite of the real thing—and why the counterfeit keeps you trapped.
Jun 14
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Rob Lefort
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Avoidant Attachment: How Self-Sufficiency Defends Against Love
People with avoidant attachment don’t feel less—they’ve learned that needing costs too much. Autonomy becomes an armor until therapy lowers it.
Jun 2
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Rob Lefort
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Relationship Red Flags Aren't Ignored. They're Silently Negotiated
Missing relationship red flags isn't a failure of perception. It's the mind protecting a narrative—and the reinterpretations feel like maturity, not…
May 19
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Rob Lefort
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The Impossible Sexual Equation: Why Intimacy Is Collapsing
The modern sex recession is what happens when the technologies that promise connection erode the human capacities necessary for intimacy to survive.
May 12
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Rob Lefort
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Never Good Enough: The Hidden Cost of Perfectionism
Perfectionism feels like ambition but acts like a wound. Unpack where it comes from, what it costs you, and how to stop chasing approval you were never…
Feb 17
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Rob Lefort
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Understanding Gaslighting Beyond the Buzzword
Gaslighting is the systematic undermining of someone's confidence in their perception. Recognizing this distinction is essential for distinguishing…
Feb 10
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Rob Lefort
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Open Relationships: When Sexual Liberation Meets Tuesday Morning Carpools
A psychotherapist's perspective on open relationships: The research, the risks, and what nobody tells you about navigating non-monogamy with kids…
Feb 3
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Rob Lefort
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