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Borderline Personality and Relationships: When Love Isn't Enough
A therapist's honest, practical guide to navigating relationships with someone who has BPD—without the usual platitudes or oversimplifications.
Oct 9
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Rob Lefort
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The Qualia Dilemma: Why We Can Never Fully Understand Each Other
Ever wonder why you feel misunderstood even by those closest to you? Explore why perfect human understanding is impossible—and why that might be the…
Sep 30
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Rob Lefort
3
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Breaking Neediness Addiction: A Therapist's Guide
Learn why your brain treats unanswered texts like life-or-death situations and discover practical techniques to love without drowning in desperation.
Sep 27
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Rob Lefort
47
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Why Emotional Maturity is the Ultimate Relationship Dealbreaker
A look at the research-backed signs of emotional maturity that predict relationship success—and why settling for less keeps you stuck in toxic patterns.
Sep 20
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Rob Lefort
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The reason why couples keep having the same fight
Learn the three hidden emotional needs driving every relationship conflict—and why understanding them changes everything.
Sep 9
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Rob Lefort
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Emotional Boundaries 101: How to Stop Being an Emotional Sponge
Tired of attracting emotionally intense people? Learn why you became an emotional sponge and discover practical strategies to set boundaries and reclaim…
Aug 26
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Rob Lefort
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Surviving An Affair: A Forensic Look at Infidelity, its Causes and Recovery Paths
A couples therapist's forensic examination of why good people risk everything for affairs—and how couples can use the wreckage to build something…
Aug 19
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Rob Lefort
9
The Negotiation Skills That Can Save Your Relationship
Discover why strategic empathy beats endless compromise, what's actually negotiable in relationships, and what should never be up for discussion.
Aug 12
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Rob Lefort
47
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Why We Keep Being Attracted to the Wrong Partner
Discover why you're unconsciously drawn to partners who hurt you in familiar ways and learn the psychology behind breaking free from toxic relationship…
Jul 19
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Rob Lefort
9
How to Survive Toxic Relationships: The Red Flags and How to Break Free
Walking on eggshells? Rehearsing conversations? Welcome to emotional quicksand. Learn the 10 toxic relationship red flags before you sink deeper.
Jul 12
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Rob Lefort
9
The Push-Pull Dance: Why Anxious-Avoidant Couples Keep Going in Circles
Discover why anxious and avoidant partners are drawn together and how understanding attachment styles can transform your relationship from toxic tango…
Jul 8
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Rob Lefort
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What Most Couples Don't Understand About Relationships: A Reality Check
Learn why some relationship conflicts can be solved through negotiation while others signal deeper incompatibility. This relationship pyramid model…
Jul 4
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Rob Lefort
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