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Why Dating Apps Made Romance Too Cheap to Trust
A psychologist's perspective on the behavioral economics of attraction and the impact of a frictionless, app-driven dating market.
20 hrs ago
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Rob Lefort
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What Therapists Actually Mean When They Say "Boundaries"
A clinical psychologist on why the popular version of "setting boundaries" is the opposite of the real thing—and why the counterfeit keeps you trapped.
Jun 14
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Rob Lefort
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Avoidant Attachment: How Self-Sufficiency Defends Against Love
People with avoidant attachment don’t feel less—they’ve learned that needing costs too much. Autonomy becomes an armor until therapy lowers it.
Jun 2
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Rob Lefort
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Relationship Red Flags Aren't Ignored. They're Silently Negotiated
Missing relationship red flags isn't a failure of perception. It's the mind protecting a narrative—and the reinterpretations feel like maturity, not…
May 19
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Rob Lefort
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The Impossible Sexual Equation: Why Intimacy Is Collapsing
The modern sex recession is what happens when the technologies that promise connection erode the human capacities necessary for intimacy to survive.
May 12
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Rob Lefort
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Never Good Enough: The Hidden Cost of Perfectionism
Perfectionism feels like ambition but acts like a wound. Unpack where it comes from, what it costs you, and how to stop chasing approval you were never…
Feb 17
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Rob Lefort
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Understanding Gaslighting Beyond the Buzzword
Gaslighting is the systematic undermining of someone's confidence in their perception. Recognizing this distinction is essential for distinguishing…
Feb 10
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Rob Lefort
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Open Relationships: When Sexual Liberation Meets Tuesday Morning Carpools
A psychotherapist's perspective on open relationships: The research, the risks, and what nobody tells you about navigating non-monogamy with kids…
Feb 3
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Rob Lefort
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The Belonging Paradox: Why Trying to Fit in Guarantees You Never Will
Why do we feel like outsiders everywhere? Learn how pre-rejecting yourself creates the belonging problem you're trying to avoid.
Jan 27
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Rob Lefort
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Beyond Body Count: The Scientific Predictors of Infidelity
The research-backed truth about infidelity: from eye movements to evolutionary instincts, what science actually reveals about who cheats and why.
Jan 13
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Rob Lefort
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Why Introverts Overspend Their Social Budget and End Up Exhausted
For introverts, conversations comes with an emotional cost. Learn what happens when your nervous system spends more than it can recharge, and how to…
Jan 7
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Rob Lefort
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The Subtle Art of Not Taking Your Partner For Granted
How to stop expecting your partner to read your mind, and discover a better way to communicate your needs to create a sustainable, balanced…
Dec 17, 2025
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Rob Lefort
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