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The Subtle Art of Not Taking Your Partner For Granted
How to stop expecting your partner to read your mind, and discover a better way to communicate your needs to create a sustainable, balanced…
Dec 17
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We're Breaking Up Over Promises We Never Made
Most couples don't fail because they break agreements—they fail because they never made them.
Nov 26
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You're Not Broken—Your Survival Strategy Is
Why capable people suddenly feel like they're disappearing—and what's actually collapsing when you can't recognize yourself anymore.
Nov 20
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Why Your Brain Treats Bad Relationships Like a Slot Machine
The dopamine trap makes you choose people who keep you guessing. Here's the neuroscience behind why chaos feels like chemistry—and how to break the…
Nov 13
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Rob Lefort
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Borderline Personality and Relationships: When Love Isn't Enough
A therapist's honest, practical guide to navigating relationships with someone who has BPD—without the usual platitudes or oversimplifications.
Oct 9
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Rob Lefort
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The Qualia Dilemma: Why We Can Never Fully Understand Each Other
Ever wonder why you feel misunderstood even by those closest to you? Explore why perfect human understanding is impossible—and why that might be the…
Sep 30
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Rob Lefort
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Breaking Neediness Addiction: A Therapist's Guide
Learn why your brain treats unanswered texts like life-or-death situations and discover practical techniques to love without drowning in desperation.
Sep 27
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Why Emotional Maturity is the Ultimate Relationship Dealbreaker
A look at the research-backed signs of emotional maturity that predict relationship success—and why settling for less keeps you stuck in toxic patterns.
Sep 20
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The reason why couples keep having the same fight
Learn the three hidden emotional needs driving every relationship conflict—and why understanding them changes everything.
Sep 9
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Rob Lefort
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Emotional Boundaries 101: How to Stop Being an Emotional Sponge
Tired of attracting emotionally intense people? Learn why you became an emotional sponge and discover practical strategies to set boundaries and reclaim…
Aug 26
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Rob Lefort
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Surviving An Affair: A Forensic Look at Infidelity, its Causes and Recovery Paths
A couples therapist's forensic examination of why good people risk everything for affairs—and how couples can use the wreckage to build something…
Aug 19
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Rob Lefort
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The Negotiation Skills That Can Save Your Relationship
Discover why strategic empathy beats endless compromise, what's actually negotiable in relationships, and what should never be up for discussion.
Aug 12
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