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The reason why couples keep having the same fight
Learn the three hidden emotional needs driving every relationship conflict—and why understanding them changes everything.
Sep 9
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Rob Lefort
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Emotional Boundaries 101: How to Stop Being an Emotional Sponge
Tired of attracting emotionally intense people? Learn why you became an emotional sponge and discover practical strategies to set boundaries and reclaim…
Aug 26
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Rob Lefort
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Surviving An Affair: A Forensic Look at Infidelity, its Causes and Recovery Paths
A couples therapist's forensic examination of why good people risk everything for affairs—and how couples can use the wreckage to build something…
Aug 19
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Rob Lefort
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The Negotiation Skills That Can Save Your Relationship
Discover why strategic empathy beats endless compromise, what's actually negotiable in relationships, and what should never be up for discussion.
Aug 12
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Rob Lefort
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Why We Keep Being Attracted to the Wrong Partner
Discover why you're unconsciously drawn to partners who hurt you in familiar ways and learn the psychology behind breaking free from toxic relationship…
Jul 19
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Rob Lefort
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How to Survive Toxic Relationships: The Red Flags and How to Break Free
Walking on eggshells? Rehearsing conversations? Welcome to emotional quicksand. Learn the 10 toxic relationship red flags before you sink deeper.
Jul 12
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Rob Lefort
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The Push-Pull Dance: Why Anxious-Avoidant Couples Keep Going in Circles
Discover why anxious and avoidant partners are drawn together and how understanding attachment styles can transform your relationship from toxic tango…
Jul 8
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Rob Lefort
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What Most Couples Don't Understand About Relationships: A Reality Check
Learn why some relationship conflicts can be solved through negotiation while others signal deeper incompatibility. This relationship pyramid model…
Jul 4
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Rob Lefort
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The Narcissism Reality Check: Separating Psychological Facts from Media Fiction
A psychologist separates clinical facts from social media fiction, debunking misleading myths about narcissism to help you recognize the real signs.
Jun 24
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Rob Lefort
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The Chemistry Lie: Why Butterflies Make Terrible Relationship Advisors
A couples therapist's reality check on why our modern dating expectations are psychological traps that might be sabotaging our chances at love—and what…
Jun 15
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Rob Lefort
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When Everything Becomes Negotiation: Why Modern Couples Are Exhausted
Why modern couples are exhausted: we expect one person to be everything—best friend, lover, co-parent, and adventure partner. How to navigate these…
Jun 13
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Rob Lefort
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The Art of Relationship Neglect: A Master Class in Missing the Point
A couples therapist's field notes on why, in an age of divided attention, we treat our most important relationships like houseplants that thrive on…
Jun 12
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Rob Lefort
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