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Open Relationships: When Sexual Liberation Meets Tuesday Morning Carpools
A psychotherapist's perspective on open relationships: The research, the risks, and what nobody tells you about navigating non-monogamy with kids…
Feb 3
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Rob Lefort
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The Belonging Paradox: Why Trying to Fit in Guarantees You Never Will
Why do we feel like outsiders everywhere? Learn how pre-rejecting yourself creates the belonging problem you're trying to avoid.
Jan 27
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Rob Lefort
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Succeeding at Failure: Why Getting it Wrong is How You Get it Right
Most people get failure wrong—they either ignore it or let it define them. Here's how to fail productively, extract the lessons, and actually grow from…
Jan 20
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Rob Lefort
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Beyond Body Count: The Scientific Predictors of Infidelity
The research-backed truth about infidelity: from eye movements to evolutionary instincts, what science actually reveals about who cheats and why.
Jan 13
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Rob Lefort
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Why Introverts Overspend Their Social Budget and End Up Exhausted
For introverts, conversations comes with an emotional cost. Learn what happens when your nervous system spends more than it can recharge, and how to…
Jan 7
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Rob Lefort
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Marina Abramović, The Art of Being Human
How Performance Art strips away our psychological defenses and forces us to confront vulnerability, mortality, and existential angst.
Jan 1
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Rob Lefort
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Why You Keep Repeating the Same Mistakes and How to Fix the Bug
A New Year's Reality Check: Your brain's mental shortcuts can turn mistakes into habits. Here's why you keep repeating errors and what actually breaks…
Dec 30, 2025
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Rob Lefort
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Here's Why the Source of Your Anxiety Is Also Your Way Out
Discover how your brain's greatest liability—its ability to manufacture anxiety from thin air—is also your ticket to freedom.
Dec 23, 2025
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Rob Lefort
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Why Smart People Stay Stuck (and What Actually Breaks the Pattern)
On blind spots, expertise traps, why self-improvement has structural limits, and why external feedback isn't optional
Dec 10, 2025
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Rob Lefort
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The Catch-22 of Anxious Attachment
Without self-worth, growth is impossible, but anxious attachment makes achieving it seem nearly impossible. Here's how to break free
Dec 3, 2025
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Rob Lefort
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We're Breaking Up Over Promises We Never Made
Most couples don't fail because they break agreements—they fail because they never made them.
Nov 26, 2025
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Rob Lefort
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You're Not Broken—Your Survival Strategy Is
Why capable people suddenly feel like they're disappearing—and what's actually collapsing when you can't recognize yourself anymore.
Nov 20, 2025
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Rob Lefort
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