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Why Smart People Stay Stuck (and What Actually Breaks the Pattern)
On blind spots, expertise traps, why self-improvement has structural limits, and why external feedback isn't optional
Dec 10
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Rob Lefort
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The Catch-22 of Anxious Attachment
Without self-worth, growth is impossible, but anxious attachment makes achieving it seem nearly impossible. Here's how to break free
Dec 3
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We're Breaking Up Over Promises We Never Made
Most couples don't fail because they break agreements—they fail because they never made them.
Nov 26
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You're Not Broken—Your Survival Strategy Is
Why capable people suddenly feel like they're disappearing—and what's actually collapsing when you can't recognize yourself anymore.
Nov 20
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Rob Lefort
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Why Your Brain Treats Bad Relationships Like a Slot Machine
The dopamine trap makes you choose people who keep you guessing. Here's the neuroscience behind why chaos feels like chemistry—and how to break the…
Nov 13
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Rob Lefort
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The Reason Why Self-Esteem Dies When You Know Yourself Too Well
Why self-aware people struggle with confidence, how to decode your envy, and why feeling like a fraud means you're more honest than most.
Nov 6
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Rob Lefort
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A Cognitive Decline Foretold: Your Brain in the Age of AI
Technology promises ease, but our brains need challenge to stay sharp. What happens when we outsource thinking itself? A psychologist explores the…
Oct 25
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Rob Lefort
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Your Brain is Lying to You: The Hidden Culprit Behind Anxiety
Cognitive distortions fuel anxiety and depression by making your brain interpret reality as more threatening than it is. Learn how CBT helps you…
Oct 21
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Rob Lefort
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Why You Should Replace Long Term Plans for Micro Experiments
Discover why micro experiments beat grand plans for mental health. Learn to embrace uncertainty, decode procrastination, and experiment your way to a…
Oct 14
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Rob Lefort
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Borderline Personality and Relationships: When Love Isn't Enough
A therapist's honest, practical guide to navigating relationships with someone who has BPD—without the usual platitudes or oversimplifications.
Oct 9
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Rob Lefort
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Your Brain Is Making Reality Up: The Reverse Inference Problem
Your brain doesn't detect reality—it creates it by predicting what's happening based on past experience. Here's why that matters for your daily life.
Oct 7
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Rob Lefort
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The Self Sabotage Playbook: How We Torpedo Our Own Lives
Discover why you unconsciously sabotage your relationships and success, how childhood patterns drive self-destruction, and what actually works to break…
Oct 2
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Rob Lefort
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