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How to Make Anxiety Work for You Instead of Against You
Anxiety can keep you trapped in avoidance, but learning to understand it can help you clarify what matters, express what you need, and act before you…
Sep 15
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Rob Lefort
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The Rise of Cultural Narcissism
Psychologists are seeing more fragmented selves than ever before. A look at what's actually driving cultural narcissism.
Sep 8
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Rob Lefort
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10 Reasons Why Happiness Is Elusive and What Gets in the Way
Happiness isn't something you can secure. Rather, it's the byproduct of a number of deliberate choices, some of which go against our nature or are…
Sep 1
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Rob Lefort
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August 2026
Writing Is How the Mind Makes Sense of Itself
Why does writing clarify what talking cannot? Psychology and neuroscience suggest that putting feelings into words doesn't just describe the mind. It…
Aug 25
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Rob Lefort
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Freud Was Wrong About Sex and Right About Almost Everything Else
Psychology dismissed Freud as unscientific for decades. Then neuroscience rebuilt his theory of memory, drive, and repression without meaning to.
Aug 18
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Rob Lefort
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How Modern Culture Breeds Fragile Minds and Undermines True Resolve
In a cultural shift, modern society is producing a personality prototype characterized by avoidant coping, low agency, flattened value hierarchies, and…
Aug 11
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Rob Lefort
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How You Respond to Conflict and Its Impact on Your Relationships
Fight, flight, freeze, or comply. Why your reaction to conflict is older than the argument you're having, and what it costs the people closest to you.
Aug 4
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Rob Lefort
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July 2026
Three Things That Affect the Decision to Leave a Relationship
The reasons people stay are rarely the ones they would name. What the research on commitment, conflict, and grief says about leaving a relationship.
Jul 26
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Rob Lefort
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Where Normal Sexual Behavior Ends and Pathology Begins
Half the population reports a so-called deviant sexual interest. A clinical psychologist on what actually separates a kink from a disorder.
Jul 19
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Rob Lefort
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The Comfort Instinct That Keeps You Underperforming
Your brain was built for survival, not excellence. A clinical psychologist on why underperformance is factory settings—and how to override them.
Jul 12
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Rob Lefort
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Why Your Emotionally Unavailable Partner Pulls Away the Closer You Get
Emotional unavailability isn't yours to fix—but pre-editing is. Why intimacy triggers withdrawal, and the one behavior that's fully in your control.
Jul 5
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Rob Lefort
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June 2026
The Slow Death of Critical Thinking in the Age of Convenience
People haven't gotten dumber. They've gotten comfortable. In a world that delivers answers instantly, the greatest cognitive challenge is no longer…
Jun 28
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Rob Lefort
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