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Three Things That Affect the Decision to Leave a Relationship
The reasons people stay are rarely the ones they would name. What the research on commitment, conflict, and grief says about leaving a relationship.
Jul 26
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Rob Lefort
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Where Normal Sexual Behavior Ends and Pathology Begins
Half the population reports a so-called deviant sexual interest. A clinical psychologist on what actually separates a kink from a disorder.
Jul 19
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Rob Lefort
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The Comfort Instinct That Keeps You Underperforming
Your brain was built for survival, not excellence. A clinical psychologist on why underperformance is factory settings—and how to override them.
Jul 12
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Rob Lefort
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Why Your Emotionally Unavailable Partner Pulls Away the Closer You Get
Emotional unavailability isn't yours to fix—but pre-editing is. Why intimacy triggers withdrawal, and the one behavior that's fully in your control.
Jul 5
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Rob Lefort
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June 2026
The Slow Death of Critical Thinking in the Age of Convenience
People haven't gotten dumber. They've gotten comfortable. In a world that delivers answers instantly, the greatest cognitive challenge is no longer…
Jun 28
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Rob Lefort
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Why Dating Apps Made Romance Too Cheap to Trust
A psychologist's perspective on the behavioral economics of attraction and the impact of a frictionless, app-driven dating market.
Jun 21
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Rob Lefort
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What Therapists Actually Mean When They Say "Boundaries"
A clinical psychologist on why the popular version of "setting boundaries" is the opposite of the real thing—and why the counterfeit keeps you trapped.
Jun 14
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Rob Lefort
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The Anxious Attachment Trap: Why Expressing Needs Feels Threatening
Anxiously attached individuals don't withhold their needs out of stubbornness. Their nervous system was trained to treat asking as dangerous.
Jun 9
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Rob Lefort
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Avoidant Attachment: How Self-Sufficiency Defends Against Love
People with avoidant attachment don’t feel less—they’ve learned that needing costs too much. Autonomy becomes an armor until therapy lowers it.
Jun 2
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Rob Lefort
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May 2026
Why Self-Help Makes You More of What You Already Are
The people who need self-help least are the ones who absorb it most. A clinical look at why guidance deepens the patterns it claims to correct.
May 26
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Rob Lefort
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Relationship Red Flags Aren't Ignored. They're Silently Negotiated
Missing relationship red flags isn't a failure of perception. It's the mind protecting a narrative—and the reinterpretations feel like maturity, not…
May 19
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Rob Lefort
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The Impossible Sexual Equation: Why Intimacy Is Collapsing
The modern sex recession is what happens when the technologies that promise connection erode the human capacities necessary for intimacy to survive.
May 12
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Rob Lefort
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