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The Paradox of Insecure Attachment
Why understanding your emotional patterns is only the beginning of changing them.
Oct 27
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Rob Lefort
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Dating after a breakup: A Rebound Reality Check
Dating right after a breakup treats grief as something to outrun. A psychologist explains what rebounds cost and what to repair before dating again.
Oct 20
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Rob Lefort
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Why You Should Reconsider What Builds True Resilience
What makes people resilient and what undermines it? How flexible coping, practical support, and loosening the need to always be strong can help us adapt…
Oct 13
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Rob Lefort
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The Self-Help Delusion
Self-optimization has become our newest addiction. But what if our obsession with personal improvement is keeping us stuck, isolated, and spiritually…
Oct 6
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Rob Lefort
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September 2026
We Hoped for Smarter Kids, We Got Smarter Phones
A psychologist examines falling test scores, rising mental health distress, and how phones and AI risk replacing the experiences children need to think…
Sep 29
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Rob Lefort
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When Therapy Keep Us Fragile Instead of Helping Build Resilience
We're getting better at talking about our feelings, and worse at managing them.
Sep 22
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Rob Lefort
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How to Make Anxiety Work for You Instead of Against You
Anxiety can keep you trapped in avoidance, but learning to understand it can help you clarify what matters, express what you need, and act before you…
Sep 15
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Rob Lefort
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The Rise of Cultural Narcissism
Psychologists are seeing more fragmented selves than ever before. A look at what's actually driving cultural narcissism.
Sep 8
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Rob Lefort
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10 Reasons Why Happiness Is Elusive and What Gets in the Way
Happiness isn't something you can secure. Rather, it's the byproduct of a number of deliberate choices, some of which go against our nature or are…
Sep 1
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Rob Lefort
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August 2026
Writing Is How the Mind Makes Sense of Itself
Why does writing clarify what talking cannot? Psychology and neuroscience suggest that putting feelings into words doesn't just describe the mind. It…
Aug 25
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Rob Lefort
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Freud Was Wrong About Sex and Right About Almost Everything Else
Psychology dismissed Freud as unscientific for decades. Then neuroscience rebuilt his theory of memory, drive, and repression without meaning to.
Aug 18
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Rob Lefort
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How Modern Culture Breeds Fragile Minds and Undermines True Resolve
In a cultural shift, modern society is producing a personality prototype characterized by avoidant coping, low agency, flattened value hierarchies, and…
Aug 11
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Rob Lefort
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