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A Cognitive Decline Foretold: Your Brain in the Age of AI
Technology promises ease, but our brains need challenge to stay sharp. What happens when we outsource thinking itself? A psychologist explores the…
Oct 25
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Rob Lefort
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Your Brain is Lying to You: The Hidden Culprit Behind Anxiety
Cognitive distortions fuel anxiety and depression by making your brain interpret reality as more threatening than it is. Learn how CBT helps you…
Oct 21
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Rob Lefort
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Why You Should Replace Long Term Plans for Micro Experiments
Discover why micro experiments beat grand plans for mental health. Learn to embrace uncertainty, decode procrastination, and experiment your way to a…
Oct 14
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Rob Lefort
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Borderline Personality and Relationships: When Love Isn't Enough
A therapist's honest, practical guide to navigating relationships with someone who has BPD—without the usual platitudes or oversimplifications.
Oct 9
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Rob Lefort
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Your Brain Is Making Reality Up: The Reverse Inference Problem
Your brain doesn't detect reality—it creates it by predicting what's happening based on past experience. Here's why that matters for your daily life.
Oct 7
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Rob Lefort
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The Self Sabotage Playbook: How We Torpedo Our Own Lives
Discover why you unconsciously sabotage your relationships and success, how childhood patterns drive self-destruction, and what actually works to break…
Oct 2
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Rob Lefort
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September 2025
The Qualia Dilemma: Why We Can Never Fully Understand Each Other
Ever wonder why you feel misunderstood even by those closest to you? Explore why perfect human understanding is impossible—and why that might be the…
Sep 30
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Rob Lefort
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Breaking Neediness Addiction: A Therapist's Guide
Learn why your brain treats unanswered texts like life-or-death situations and discover practical techniques to love without drowning in desperation.
Sep 27
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Rob Lefort
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The Accidental Genius: The Mystery of Savant Syndrome
Savant syndrome reveals how brain injury or developmental differences can unlock extraordinary abilities, challenging our understanding of human…
Sep 23
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Rob Lefort
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Why Emotional Maturity is the Ultimate Relationship Dealbreaker
A look at the research-backed signs of emotional maturity that predict relationship success—and why settling for less keeps you stuck in toxic patterns.
Sep 20
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Rob Lefort
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Breaking Free From a Narcissist's Playbook and Reclaiming Your Sanity
Escape narcissistic manipulation with proven strategies. Master gray-rocking, boundaries, and detachment techniques to reclaim your sanity and freedom.
Sep 16
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Rob Lefort
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The map vs the territory: why your life plan should be written in pencil
Discover why a flexible life plan beats both rigid goal-setting and aimless wandering and learn to navigate uncertainty while staying true to your…
Sep 13
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Rob Lefort
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