Triggers don't come out of nowhere. They're data. Learn how self-awareness, accountability, and strategic pausing transform reactions into choices and chaos into clarity.
“The capacity to pause, to own your part accurately rather than excessively, to return a borrowed emotion to its rightful owner — none of these are natural talents.”
I work with couples that struggle with addictions and infidelity. The work does rely heavily on finding their own part to something that makes no sense.
"Progress in emotional regulation does not mean you stop having emotional reactions. Instead, it means your emotional responses resolve more quickly."
I've noticed this anecdotally with myself and the few clients I've taught emotional regulation to. I didn't realise it was a well known thing though, so thanks for sharing :)
It takes effort to de-automatize our reactions. It takes the gym of daily life among our fellow humans who are our trainers who trigger us in various ways just as we trigger them as well. Each cutting off in traffic or rude customer at the supermarket is sheer training for new and healthier neuropathways. It does get easier.
“The capacity to pause, to own your part accurately rather than excessively, to return a borrowed emotion to its rightful owner — none of these are natural talents.”
I work with couples that struggle with addictions and infidelity. The work does rely heavily on finding their own part to something that makes no sense.
"Progress in emotional regulation does not mean you stop having emotional reactions. Instead, it means your emotional responses resolve more quickly."
I've noticed this anecdotally with myself and the few clients I've taught emotional regulation to. I didn't realise it was a well known thing though, so thanks for sharing :)
It takes effort to de-automatize our reactions. It takes the gym of daily life among our fellow humans who are our trainers who trigger us in various ways just as we trigger them as well. Each cutting off in traffic or rude customer at the supermarket is sheer training for new and healthier neuropathways. It does get easier.
Thank you Rob for sharing knowledge.
Great job explaining this concept!