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Chetna's avatar

Thank you for writing this. I have always wondered if there is ever a way out of the Catch22, your article gives a path.

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Jenny's avatar

This is me. I am working on it - with support. But honestly, I can’t imagine what it might feel like in my body to operate from a baseline perspective of myself as inherently valuable. It feels like something so abstract.

I don’t know how to not filter my experiences through the lenses that are fitted to my eyes. It certainly hasn’t shifted on the basis of intellectual understanding of what’s actually happening in my nervous system.

But then also, once, not all that long ago, I hadn’t heard of attachment styles and such things. Who knows what’s around the next bend in the road…

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Rob Lefort's avatar

Keep enquiring Jenny, and you will eventually find ways to rebuild trust in yourself. The journey is not intellectual, it requires action: taking small risks everyday that generate micro-successes. You are the author, rewrite the script.

"It's a hell of a responsibility to be yourself. It's much easier to be somebody else or nobody at all" - Silvia Plath

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Mayssa's avatar

Merci beaucoup ça m’a vraiment aidé à comprendre mon attachement 🙏🏻🌟

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Mervel's avatar

I really enjoy this one! I am an anxious individual. Growing up in a household has taught me to read people's emotions. As a 24-year-old, it was difficult to adjust, especially since I am still accepting things. Your essay speaks to me since I am unique in the way I build my work. I really love it! It sounds like my own journey of growing up and learning about self-work and self-validation.

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Rob Lefort's avatar

Thank you for your comment. Much appreciated.

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Peggy Bell's avatar

Very useful essay!

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Rob Lefort's avatar

Thank you!

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Piers Eccleston's avatar

Lovely helpful piece! Thank you

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Rob Lefort's avatar

Many thanks

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