A look at the research-backed signs of emotional maturity that predict relationship success—and why settling for less keeps you stuck in toxic patterns.
Beautifully articulated, thank you. I've shared this with my sister and daughter.
My conundrum is that as a single woman approaching 58, I just don't seem to come across any emotionally intelligent men. This doesn't agree with the research you cite. I'm in the UK but is this a generational thing you think?
Thank you! There are most probably cultural biases and influences at play that will have a generational effect too. Our subjective experience is also linked to the narrowing of our social sphere as we get older (my personal experience too...). After 50, we're more cautious, we filter more, our social playground shrinks. Most importantly I think it has to do with education. Emotional intelligence is a learned process that requires a growth mindset. You might have more luck if you try changing a few parameters in the criteria you use for selection. I found this worked for me.
When I read the title I immediately knew I would definitely enjoy this read, and I wanted to have a look at it, and goodness I wasn’t wrong. You have masterfully articulated this piece, I love the depth and detailed explanation, very thought provoking and beautifully presented. I have subscribed and looking forward to reading more of your work 🌹❤️
This is information that should be taught through every level of our basic education and reinforced constantly. These points seem so basic, straightforward, intuitive and innate in reading and yet we need to learn so much about ourselves!
I think this info applies for all our relationships, from the rude person at the bank queue to our partners. We really need to get out of ourselves and see other perspectives. Ubiquitous and permanent awareness of our actions and reactions is a game changer. It is a basic life skill indeed.
Beautifully articulated, thank you. I've shared this with my sister and daughter.
My conundrum is that as a single woman approaching 58, I just don't seem to come across any emotionally intelligent men. This doesn't agree with the research you cite. I'm in the UK but is this a generational thing you think?
Thank you! There are most probably cultural biases and influences at play that will have a generational effect too. Our subjective experience is also linked to the narrowing of our social sphere as we get older (my personal experience too...). After 50, we're more cautious, we filter more, our social playground shrinks. Most importantly I think it has to do with education. Emotional intelligence is a learned process that requires a growth mindset. You might have more luck if you try changing a few parameters in the criteria you use for selection. I found this worked for me.
When I read the title I immediately knew I would definitely enjoy this read, and I wanted to have a look at it, and goodness I wasn’t wrong. You have masterfully articulated this piece, I love the depth and detailed explanation, very thought provoking and beautifully presented. I have subscribed and looking forward to reading more of your work 🌹❤️
Thank you for your kind words 🙏
This is information that should be taught through every level of our basic education and reinforced constantly. These points seem so basic, straightforward, intuitive and innate in reading and yet we need to learn so much about ourselves!
I think this info applies for all our relationships, from the rude person at the bank queue to our partners. We really need to get out of ourselves and see other perspectives. Ubiquitous and permanent awareness of our actions and reactions is a game changer. It is a basic life skill indeed.
Thank you Rob!
You're right Edgar, it should be basic education, but it's far from the case unfortunately...