Thanks for this! Its helpful is zooming out about what to focus on when we need change in a difficult relationship with narcissistic patterns. Focussing on the narcissism is not the only way forward. Yes npd is rare. At the same time i guess some of us do mix in circles where it is way above 1%. For example TV. But then why are we attracted to these circles?
Thank you for your feedback. Very good point. I was tempted to touch on the impact and principles of narcissistic personality style (as opposed to NPD) as described in the PDM, but that's too much a foreign and difficult concept to grasp for non-professionals.
Sure. I suppose im attempting the opposite and exploring narcissistic personality broadly as a set of strategies rather than traits or the more severe npd. Using a simple map of narcissism im hoping to make this accessable.
Interesting and valid question... Most of us have to a certain degree narcissistic traits in our personality without it being pathological. What constitutes a personality disorder is a set of traits on the extreme end of the spectrum. A narcissistic personality style on the other hand refers to people whose personality is organized around maintaining self-esteem by obtaining external affirmation. Typically though, anyone who has a real narcissistic personality disorder does not seek help or ask himself/herself the type of question you ask yourself.
Whether you should or not preoccupy yourself with a partner's opinion of your behavior depends on how much you care about that relationship, and how much each partner is ready to take responsibility for his/her behaviors. Behaviors that are disliked or judged are not automatically pathological or dysfunctional. It's up to you to decide.
Thanks for this! Its helpful is zooming out about what to focus on when we need change in a difficult relationship with narcissistic patterns. Focussing on the narcissism is not the only way forward. Yes npd is rare. At the same time i guess some of us do mix in circles where it is way above 1%. For example TV. But then why are we attracted to these circles?
Thank you for your feedback. Very good point. I was tempted to touch on the impact and principles of narcissistic personality style (as opposed to NPD) as described in the PDM, but that's too much a foreign and difficult concept to grasp for non-professionals.
Sure. I suppose im attempting the opposite and exploring narcissistic personality broadly as a set of strategies rather than traits or the more severe npd. Using a simple map of narcissism im hoping to make this accessable.
Interesting and valid question... Most of us have to a certain degree narcissistic traits in our personality without it being pathological. What constitutes a personality disorder is a set of traits on the extreme end of the spectrum. A narcissistic personality style on the other hand refers to people whose personality is organized around maintaining self-esteem by obtaining external affirmation. Typically though, anyone who has a real narcissistic personality disorder does not seek help or ask himself/herself the type of question you ask yourself.
Whether you should or not preoccupy yourself with a partner's opinion of your behavior depends on how much you care about that relationship, and how much each partner is ready to take responsibility for his/her behaviors. Behaviors that are disliked or judged are not automatically pathological or dysfunctional. It's up to you to decide.