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Cheryl Camarillo, LCSW, CSAT's avatar

As a person working with couples struggling with the infidelity issue, I appreciate this article. You covered a very consistent question with a variety of answers. The question I hear most is “why did my partner cheat?”. It’s never just one reasons.

Rob Lefort's avatar

Many thanks Cheryl, I appreciate your comments.

Anna Remez's avatar

Women really usually cheat on that reasons, but stop once they found their match. But I am not sure if there are no women who cheat like men.

I am a woman and was a cheater. Now I have no urge to do that, because I am happy.

Star's avatar

This was a good read

Sarah Rees's avatar

Very interesting! I’m curious if you would be willing to share the references for the research you mentioned in the post? I’d love to learn more about the topic

Rob Lefort's avatar

Sure.

Eye Movement and Attention Studies:

McNulty, J. K., et al. (Study on attention disengagement from attractive alternatives predicting infidelity - 100 milliseconds finding)

Online Explicit Content and Infidelity:

Doran, K., & Price, J. (Analysis of 20,000+ participants showing 101-102% increased affair rates among online explicit content consumers)

Body Count and Infidelity:

McNulty, J. K. (Analysis showing individuals with 5+ partners twice as likely to cheat)

Social Contagion of Infidelity:

Burriss, R. P., et al. (Experimental study showing exposure to others' infidelity affects faithfulness inclinations)

Longitudinal Predictors:

Knopp, K., et al. (Longitudinal study showing past cheaters 3x more likely to cheat again; those previously cheated on 2x more likely to be cheated on again)

Physical Attractiveness and Cheating:

Cole, S., et al.; Meltzer, A. L., et al. (Studies on "letting yourself go" and physical attractiveness as protective factors)

TheElectricPilgrim's avatar

The Dark Triad would be a good name for a metal band, ngl. Thanks for an interesting article.

CamperCO's avatar

I like the insight. And the “just knowing” is 100% accurate - coming from someone who just knew.

Davey Gravy's avatar

Another great article Rob! I really enjoy the topics you choose, and especially the way you write about them 🙏

Rob Lefort's avatar

Thank you Davey. I'm grateful for your feedback. 🙏